It’s that time of year when many of us start to feel the impending doom of going back to work. As we close off a festive holiday season and start trying to get our minds into productive work mode again, it’s natural to feel a little anxious. In fact, there’s actually a trending term for this exact feeling. It’s called the ‘Sunday Scaries’ and it’s that much more real after we’ve all just had a leisurely week or two weeks off for the holidays.
How many times have you walked into a party and taken a deep breath, bracing yourself before talking to anyone? It’s normal to get nervous before talking to people. According to psychologist, Rick Hanson, in his book, “Hardwiring Happiness: The new brain science of contentment, calm and confidence,” he indicates that humans share ancestry with creatures, like bats, whose self-fulfillment is founded on the carrot and stick philosophy. The carrot was their reward for doing well while the stick was punishment for acting poorly. These creatures thrived by avoiding the stick instead of pursuing the carrot. According to Dr. Hanson, over time, humans have transformed this into a desire to avoid negative environments instead of actively pursuing positive ones.
Who doesn't struggle with self-esteem?
Each one of us has some sort of confidence conflict. Maybe you left the house today feeling great and then someone said something that made you second guess yourself. And in a matter of seconds your self-esteem hit rock bottom. Even when you don't show it, our self-esteem can have a dramatic effect on how we view ourselves and ultimately, in the way we interact with people.
Having a baby is the most beautiful experience. As women, we spend nine months growing a human being in our bodies. We’re careful to nourish them and intuitively listen to their needs while they nestle into their new home in our wombs. Then the time comes, and our bundle of joy arrives. We’re new moms! Life is beautiful, our baby is beautiful and we couldn’t be happier…right?
But what if we’re not?
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